Is he tough enough

I don't understand how we could shutdown or reduce our missile program just as N. Korea is shooting a missile into space. It seems to me that this would be a good time to make our country more secure instead of less secure. If we get attacked again is President Obama going to open talks with the country that attacks or his he going to show some backbone and defend us. On 9/11 President Bush was reading to some kindergarten kids. After the attack he was criticized for not jumping up and rushing to our defence. If he had however he would have been criticized for scaring those kids. I hope President Obama can be tough when circumstances call for him too.